Hi Dolls, 

The topic of this blog "Why A Woman May Think That Every Man Cheats?" Is not a new one, remember there is not much new in the world today, however it is a topic that should be addressed, and as a woman you should have high standards and some resolve about the issue of cheating. So, why do men cheat?
     There is no exact science for why a man cheats.  Women contribute cheating to loose women and standards, psychologist contribute it to a man's moral character and his upbringing.  Everyone is right in this instance, men cheat for all these reasons.  What women have conditioned themselves to believe is that " all men cheat!"  Yes I said "all men cheat!"  So why do women believe this?  They believe this because all the men they know have cheated.  If they come across a man who says that he doesn't cheat then they believe he is lying or, that something is wrong with him.
    I'm not sure as to when this malarkey started and who made cheating cool and accepted, as long as they didn't find out bring them any diseases and/or illegitimate children, however plainly stated that is just dumb.
     Whoever accepted this behavior caused a trend of broken homes, children with absent fathers, spread diseases, and increased the rate of divorce.  Sounds like Marxism to create a Proletariat society, but who knows?  The fact of the matter is that people are brain dead they accept a nickel worth of pay for a dollar worth of work.  Yes women when have been cheated on some in return have cheated on their man, and without resolve, they forgave them and stayed. Why?
     Lets talk about it.  Why do women stay after they have been cheated on?  Women are conditioned to bear the way they have been treated in today's society.  More often than not women have been abused physically verbally, and emotionally.  They have moved from one mane to another over and over from man to man, down graded by society; treated as second class citizens, whores, sex objects, and joys for the moment.  Young girl's grow up in homes where they witness this ill treatment from the same man or even the same type of men.  Then they observe these same women who they look up to sisters, mothers, cousins and aunts alike make themselves up beautifying themselves with lipstick, hair-do's toes and finger nails, and out fit after out fit for these same men who seem to mistreat them.
     This behavior is learned and taught as these same women pass the tricks of the trade saying," This is what you  must do to get this man, make him yours, and make him love you."  At an impressionable age we are all conditioned ladies to desire to be a man's prize, the apple of his eye.  No matter what we strive for ourselves or are, be it an ambitious career woman, to be a beautiful trophy wife, babies mama, or homemaker we all want our man.
     However, what women are missing is observing the qualities of the right type of man to search for.  What women are not taught is to have self-esteem beyond their identity of one's mate.  Nor are women taught to look for these qualities in a man that or one that influence these qualities in us.  As we seldom see woman treated right and decently on a wide scale what is prevalent is the opposite.  The negative.  As that information is processed in our brain it becomes the norm.  Women become bearers of such behavior and begin to perpetuate what one becomes accustomed to.  What is most comfortable and in turn most widely accepted.  In essence women stay due to a deficiency in one's own persona.
     So why do men cheat?  There are so many factors that contribute to this.  Still it comes down to a few basic things that are not limited to male behavior.  One basic truth is that people with low self-esteem use a means to build it up.  One of the ways are sexual conquests.  So the larger portion of men who cheat do so because this is what makes them feel empowered or in control, it gives them a sense of esteem.  Otherwise they feel inadequate and useless.  This is not limited to men of a certain class or status (you watch television right?). This marks true of all men from all walks of life that cheat.  This behavior stems from an emotional deficiency that is triggered by many factors.  Upbringing, what they feel they are deprived of, moral value and yes personal character.  In a similar way acceptance of this treatment that we as women pick up.
     So what if you have a man that has cheated or is cheating on you?  Well, is it time to leave?  That is a decision that of course is up to you.  In some instances I have known of relationships that has survived mistakes.  But consider this.  Is it a mistake for a man to take off his clothes and have sex with a woman?  That sounds like a deliberate action.  So what was the mistake then?  Was it his mistake to devalue your relationship?  Consider a males position in the regard.  "A man who recognizes his woman's' worth respects her and their relationship in front of her and behind closed doors", says L.T.
     Unfortunately ladies after a man cheats on us we don't value ourselves enough to say that we will not put up with this.  Is this you?  Mentally have you conditioned yourself to believe that you lack value?  Women who allow such ill treatment feel as if a man has provided her with an identity and she is nothing or powerless without him.  In reality, a woman may be nothing to him, surely not enough.  But in that event when you allow or perpetuate that kind of treatment you are in effect devaluing yourself.  What women must realize is that we are of value and any man who doesn't see value in you or your relationship is not worth your time.  And you are not the one that is valueless.  Your cheating man is.
     Now can a cheater stop cheating? Or will your man stop cheating?  Well ladies that is a difficult question to answer.  But the answer depends upon both of you.  First of all in if you continue to make excuses for him and continue to enable his behavior and disrespect he will not.  In this regard whether your cheater reforms his ways or not you must demand through your words and actions to be loved and respected, and that your man shows that he values you and your relationship.  In this regard if your cheating man can in turn find esteem in you and your relationship, reform is possible but this is by no means a guarantee.  The cheating is due to his own deficient character, lack of moral, and low self-esteem and until he is able to become a man of character and stand for something greater than what he is presently, he will never stop cheating on you.  He will continue to tear down your character in order to build himself up.
     Lastly, why every man does not cheat?  Believe it or not there are some men that do not cheat, yes ladies they do exist.  Frankly, put there are men who may have been brought up in homes, raised in environments, and experience things that could produce in them the characteristics that breed cheating.  Some men actually love their women too much to disrespect them in this manner.  Some of them love and respect themselves more than to devalue themselves to be disloyal, and dishonest.  Some men value principals like loyalty honor and respect.  One gentleman put it this way.  "Although I have many opportunities to have other women, even without my woman finding out.  I'm secure in myself and my relationship.  I love my lady and even though she may not witness my actions in my heart I'm pleased to put her first and choose her above other woman."  Another man put it this way.  "Men are like vampires.  (The character) Blade is superior to the whole species.  Some women to men are like blood to vampires. When a man is in his youth he tries to prove himself to his friends and peers, some of those conquests are not the smartest.  A mature man is like Blade.  Although he is a vampire and has the same temptations as one he resists these inclinations.  So too with a mature man as he is comfortable in who he is and who he is with he maintains control."
     I hope this inspires and answers questions that you may have asked yourself, and most of all empowers you if you are faced with such a dilemma.  As always dolls "Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful!"-Marliyn Monroe

XOXO

Nikki