Women all over the globe use the tactic of withholding sex in anger, retaliation, and persuasion of some sort.  One time or another ladies you may have done the same thing.  Let's analyze why this is not such a good idea.  What's most obvious is that some men have the mentality of what they cannot get from home or from you as their woman, they can get elsewhere.  So with that in mind, a woman holding back her "good's" in retaliation may run the risk of her man cheating on her with a woman a bit more in a giving mood.  What makes a man less inclined to cheat?  Could you be stressing him out?

Why You Should Wear White When You Want To


I woke up one morning and looked in my closet and it was filled with white and black garments. I don't know what prompted me to do this, there was this one year I decided to purchase nothing but clothing either black, white, or with the combination of both. It became my thing every time I went out I wanted to be seen in something black or white. Of course I did not wear these items to work as my job sometimes leads me to some unfavorable places. One day I decided to wear a pair of white pants and a black shirt, and people were so taken back by this. Oh the stares and yes I have a mirror, so I know I look great in them.
 For me wearing white whenever is normal, in January I wore a sheer black shirt and some white harem pants to an upscale restaurant and was complimented on my ensemble. At work though it was the opposite, I heard a few questions which are really just sounded like an opinion. "Why are you wearing white pants after Labor Day?" they asked. Confused by the question I offered no answer. So I decided to Google this fashion faux pas, and I found nothing of sound information as to why this was so important.
History states that the summer is the hot months (of course I knew that) and that white is generally worn during those months to thwart off the heat. So wearing white was a seasonal thing, I get that. White also signified classes of people, the working class wore dark colors as well as people who lived in the city. It was hard to keep if clean in city environments and of course people did not dare wear white attire to a blue collar job.
Designers and stores are selling white clothing after Labor Day not for you to save it to wear May through September, but at your leisure to fashionably sport your clothing. Look at Olivia Pope, her white coat made history, it's not stark white, but you get the point.
What I do not get is that people who want to be free to do whatever they want, would like for others to be stuck into a list of what to dos and what not to do. There are no rules when it come to when I wear a color for me. White is generally a color that you can see through, and in the fall and winter rain or snow can make it difficult to wear. When the opportunity presents itself forget about what month it is and wear what you like. I know for me I will continue to wear white after Labor Day. Break the rules, it's called "winter white" for a reason.

XO

Nikki

Many woman dress for convenience.  Having a busy schedule or even children may dictate the way you dress.  The way you've dressed in the past before the children and your now busy careers sometimes may not resemble the woman you are today.  Think of the time you have rushed to the store thinking, " I'll only be a moment".  What's wrong with this, is that everyone sees you and with today's social media you could easily become the joke on Facebook and Instagram. I know your mother have informed you that when you go out in public, you must have on matching underwear. That ladies was for a reason, not so Victoria Secret can make more money, but the impression it gives. Your underwear holds your valuables so to speak, and you cloth your valuables so whomever sees them has a good impression of you.
     It is unreasonable to think that we can always be runway ready.  However, with a few changes and consideration you can certainly look great.  Here are some things that women should avoid being seen in public in.

A superb option to the bonnet.

Hair Bonnets- First of all wearing sleepwear in public is not appealing, the perception from men and women is that you are not clean and have not bathed.  If it is a must that you go in public in a rush a baseball cap or a clean hair wrap, will give you a better look.  It can even be fashion friendly with your hair brushed down.

Robes- Again bath or bed attire has no place in public.  A nice windbreaker or light leather would be more suitable.

Pajamas-Pajamas are so comfortable, I have seen so many people at the grocery store shopping in their PJs. Ladies purchase a nice legging or Yoga pant to slip into when conducting short errands, after all you never know who you will run into.

Last Nights Make-Up- This is a sure sigh that you have not taken the time to shower.  Please wash your face as it is one of the first things you should do when you wake if you do not get in the shower.

No Bra-Ladies if you are a size C and larger your breast are very noticeable, and when you do not wear a bra everyone notices. Although it is uncomfortable sometimes to wear a bra, bras can delay sagging and enhance your bust area.

As humans we process information first with our eyes.  As we gather information from what we see we are able to draw conclusions.  If I see a woman wearing pajamas or clothing that she has slept in or even make-up from the previous day, my first thought is that she is not clean.  Even if a woman is rushing if you don't take time to make yourself presentable it shows that you don't care about your appearance that's wretched.

     So dolls, in conclusion, you can avoid becoming the laughing stock of social media circles by putting a little thought to what you choose to wear outside the house even if your rushing.  If you can careless what a person might think, consider the impression you are making on the people in your life.

XO

Nikki

Hello Dolls,

   

Today we're going to talk about misinterpretations.  Have you ever thought a guy was really into you?  He did all the right things, said all the right words.  Everything about his actions were perfect.  You went out, to dinner dates, movies and had other activities together formally and informally.  So you probably thought to yourself, everything he did told you that he wanted more than just a friendship. Suddenly, your decision to make your move to take things deeper by expressing your feelings is met by disaster.  Not only are your feelings not returned, but you've possibly ruined a good friendship.  Does this sound familiar to you?  How can you prevent such an embarrassing moment?
     To be honest ladies some guys just give mixed signals.  Seemingly they play upon the edges of friendship tipping upon the boundaries of something more whether this is initial or not.  How can we read the signs of such mixed signals?  Is there a way that we could accurately interpret them?

Really? He is not interested in a relationship.  Don't read more into it.  Exit Now!

     This subject is very vast in that some guys actually play upon such boundaries by flirting and so forth in order to see actually how far they can get with you without an actual commitment.  Others may do so in an attempt to respectfully let you know that they are into you without putting themselves out there in case their feelings are not returned.  Then there are those men who really may just be being nice, who maybe outgoing and even free with their feelings with only the thought of doing so much as being a platonic friend, whether it's to boost you up because of some recent traumatic event like a recent break up or for no reason at all other than to be nice.
     In the eyes of some, even many all of these perceptions maybe very difficult to interpret.  But with some key information you maybe able to identify what type of man your dealing with which would help you to determine the signals projected properly.  Is your friend guarded or more outgoing?  Is his personality inverted or external?  While there are different ways to determine this.  The truth is, the only way to find out is to ask plainly. Do you consider that embarrassing, or are you too shy?  Consider the old statement" a closed mouth does not  get fed."  If you'd like to ask a platonic friend a question without going too far, simply be frank.  If he asks you out for an informal dinner, movie or any informal setting that you begin to wonder about.  Simply ask what is his intent?
 The question can easily begin a deeper understand of his and your intentions.  Or is it you enjoy the cat and mouse game as well?  One key thing to remember men are not the only ones that give mixed signals, even for all the above mentioned purposes.
     So in conclusion Dolls if you really are not into beating around the bush and would like to avoid what misinterpreting mixed signals can bring.  Be frank, and ask the intention of whom your dealing with.  Otherwise not only could you experience an embarrassing moment at the least.  But you could be giving the same mixed signals yourself.  Until next time ladies be safe!

XO

Nikki

Hello Dolls, 

During this holiday season, most of us will be traveling to our family and friends (or to avoid them lol). And while taking a trip is always exciting (or should be), it can become quite stressful , especially if you forget to pack things you will need to remain your usual fashionable self. So I decided to share my list of must haves for your carry on bags.

Travel Flat-irons or Curlers (battery operated preferred):  I cannot tell you how many times I have gone international and forgot converters are needed for plugs and outlets. So to avoid this drama (and a vacation filled with bad hair days) invest in some quality battery operated flat-irons or curlers, they especially come in handy for road trips. It will certainly make the vacay much more enjoyable if your hair stays fly!


Hair Mousse or a light oil:  Weather definitely affects our hair in several ways,  and during the winter months, it can be super harsh on our hair.  I recommend a nice light mousse or light (non-greasy)oil or serum that will keep your hair looking healthy without weighing it down.

Tide to Go Pen: I cannot begin to tell you how this little pen has worked its way into my heart (and my purse of course).  Dramatic? Trust me I am not trying to be.  Being a naturally clumsy person, when I eat I tend to make a mess at times; and well when you are on the go sometimes, you cannot just change your clothes, so what can you do? Grab your tide to go pen, head to the nearest bathroom and start to scrub that pesky stain out!


Sunglasses -Shades:   There is nothing like a cute pair of shades to compliment any outfit. And while traveling sunglasses, can be the perfect accessory when feeling to lazy to maybe put on lashes or other makeup.  So make sure you pack a pair or 2 of shades to block the sun and your haters.


Well, that is the end of my little list of things to pack to remain fly while traveling.  Hopefully, this will help you during this busy holiday season. Have a suggestion for my list?! Please comment :) We love them!

Love Always XOXO,

Paper Doll 

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