Why Women Lose All Sensibility After The Big "O"

Hi Dolls,

     Consider what some men have to say about this subject.  Ramone said, women try to use sex as a means to "get you,” some feel as if they can hook you with sex and that once they do you will seek a relationship with them.  He continued, "I met a woman at a club.  She told me that she wasn't looking for a relationship.  That was cool with me cause neither was I.  She had a person that she was having sex with of whom she spoke of and I didn't hold back from telling her about females with whom I dated.  We established a sexual relationship.  One night while having sex with her I noticed that she was crying. I asked was wrong?  She told me that she was doing something that she hadn't planned on doing.  I asked then, what was that? What she told me changed everything.  She told me she was falling in love.  I was stunned because I hadn't done anything but have sex with her.  She couldn't have loved nothing but how I was making her feel.”

     Craig stated, "I was having sex with one lady just sex.  Upon the third time she came over she brought several changes of clothes to my house like she was moving in.  I told her she was doing too much.”  Sam relayed how he started a physical relationship with a woman and she began driving past his house at night to see if other woman was parked on the street at my house.  If she saw a car she would honk her horn until she was noticed.  Lastly Dave stated a woman initiated sex with him knowing that he was in a committed relationship.  After sex when she saw that I wasn't going to leave my woman for her she became irate".

     Ladies has this ever been you?  No of course not who would admit that. Why after sex do women become so clingy?  Why is there such a difference in the way that woman approach sex than men?  The reason has to do with a hormone that men and women produce after orgasm.  It's called Oxytocin.  After sex, women can continue to produce this hormone for up to 3 days.  While it is productive in men only up to 3 hours.  What you may ask does this hormone do?

     Well ladies, once you have had your boat rocked really good, a hormone passes through your bloodstream that tells us to bond with this man.  It's a natural occurrence.  Oxytocin is termed the bonding hormone for it is the same chemical produced in women while breast feeding. 

    When asked the majority of men agree that their reason for initiating sex is mostly physical.  Though I have heard other reasons I'll reserve those for another topic of discussion.  Only one man out of ten said that he would use sex as a way to express depth of emotion in his relationship with his lady.  Too bad for us he is taken!  But women are biologically and chemically made to, at the least desire a more intimate bond once sex comes into play.

     So in conclusion ladies, be mindful that the strange feeling you get of yearning to be with that certain someone that you have become intimately close to or even desire to be with is not necessarily love.  This feeling is chemically induced it can even be stimulated by cuddling.  The breakdown of understanding comes when a woman assumes that she can get a man where she wants’ him by using sex. 

     However, women will be more successful at building a relationship through honest, respectful communication.  Then you will get what you want and Oxytocin will be a bonding benefit of that understanding and not the beginning of a relationship without understanding.  Later dolls 'til next time be safe.

XOXO

NiKKi