Bad Habits: Relationship Woes

Hello Ladies,

 Remember the fire that you've had in the beginning of your relationship?  Passionate kissing, him opening the door, fantastic little surprises, cruises, dinner & a movie, ski trips, you name it, the two of you have done it. So fast-forward to the present has the pressures of life turned that flame into a flicker?  If so let't talk about steps that can bring the spice back into your relationship.
     Most times we become weighed down and consumed with bills, child care, and even our personal pursuits and goals.  In this regard scheduling time for you and your partner can do much for a relationship that needs it's burner re-lit.  This time scheduled can include a date night whether it's once a month, once a week, or every two weeks which ever you both agree upon.
     Secondly, after a time is scheduled communication is important.  Ask your partner are all their needs being met within your relationship?  Whether the answer is yes or no, ask what can you do to make things even better? And ladies if there is any deficiency within your relationship respectfully let your man know what areas are he may be able to give attention to as well.  Be sure to be respectful of your mates feelings if the subject is sensitive.  Be sure to let him know that you wish to improve your relationship in any way possible.  Now here comes the fun part!  Express your wants!
     In fact, you can tell your man for instance that any wants that he'd like you to pay extra attention to you will provide to if he trades you for some of your wants, which will motivate your doing so.  Here's an example.  You could say, "baby I know that you like me to massage your shoulders and back.  As I'm on my feet all day at work a foot massage would be good motivation for me to give you that back rub you so desire.  We could even use our massages as a step of foreplay."  Not just communication but the way you converse with you mate could light embers that turn into a blazing fire.
     Third, is one that could easily become your favorite.  Role play.  Before you begin to role play though it is good to establish some ground rules.  Ladies some men and some women alike may experience insecurities from the idea of you entertaining the advances of another person even if it is planned and make believe.  Yes some of us are sensitive to such.  So establish ground rules in the beginning to insure that this doesn't happen.  For instance Jennifer let your husband know that when you role play your name is Lisa for the evening and with your new name change your personality. Try meeting at a bar as if you don't even know one another and let the sparks fly.
     Next up dress sexy for bed at times.  That same old T-shirt or night gown may not be as flattering as you may think.  Try getting ready for bed as if you were going out for a date.  Instead of wrapping your hair up for the night leave your hair down or in a comfortable style.  Lingerie, heels, lace, see through material is a sure way to raise the temperature of night time moments that might other-wise be could.
  Now ladies, last  but definitely not least.  Take a break from your same sexual routine.  The same positions can become mundane.  Not to say they are not pleasurable but consider this:  Do you always have sex with your mate at night?  During one of your date nights schedule a daytime rump.  Just that difference will certainly add to the prospective creativity of what could be in store.  If your man always initiates sex a sure way to adding some spice could be your motivation for taking your turn to initiate the loving.   As you do, get right into "character".  This would be a great time to role play.  Maybe you'll be a nurse or even a noisy neighbor.  Whatever you do, do it with confidence and style, and let your imagination run wild.  Once you cross those lines what is mundane will no longer be apart of your life.  For a flame will be ignited within the both of you that will not only add fun and spice.  These 5 steps certainly will bring satisfaction that will energize you for whatever life brings your way.  Until next time doll's be well and be safe and have fun adding Spice!

Stay beautiful!

Nikki