Hi Dolls,
I thought
I'd share with you all some information about what a "Ride or Die
Chick" actually is, and really would a real woman want to be one? In conversations, when asked the majority of
men to define a "Ride or Die Chick" they defined her as: a female who
is willing to do anything for her man.
While it sounds good and desirable, is it actually what every man wants?
When this cliché'
was actually broken down you'll find I’m sure even a deeper meaning.
To ride: just like getting into a car, a willing
participant, willing to do what it takes to keep and please her man.
Or die: meaning at all costs willing to take risks
or blame if need be, the scape goat of whatever contrivance; willing to bear
consequence or liability, criminal, civil, including bodily harm to self or
others.
The so called “Ride or Die Chick” has no
limitations. She is controlled by every
whim or intent with which her man produces whether it is perceived as
beneficial to her or not. When asked,
most real men want and respect a woman with limitations, her own mind, and
intelligence to say no to something detrimental. Yes, men want a woman that is trustworthy; a
trustworthy woman is someone who demonstrates a strong character and not a lack
of judgment. Many women mistake having a
man’s back from carrying him whereas he is not contributing to the relationship
or household.
Women whom have an Investment-mind are strongly
sought after; have you ever wondered why certain men pick certain women? It is
not all about the looks; a man wants a woman who can handle the finances without
making them both go broke. He wants a woman to make solid choices in investments and rather than having a closet full of Gucci perhaps having stock in Gucci.
Men also stated that they want a generous woman, a woman who extends her
hand without the perception that she is getting something of material value. Men
also value women who take care of her appearance and respect her man and are not
influenced by her mother’s or friends opinions as to how to conduct
herself with him.
Instead of the label of “Ride or Die Chick” men really want a COO, yes
ladies a Chief Operating Officer. She knows how to prepare one of his favorite
meals, support him when he is down, build him up, love him, and again be
prosperous with him.
Though
there are a small amount of men who would take a “Ride or Die Chick” that is
willing to do whatever and at any cost to be with them, their caliber as men falls short of what is
defined as a man of substance. Really,
how much are you valued as a woman, if your man wouldn't mind putting you at
risk? There were many comments on this
subject in conversation. One man said it
best. "I want a queen not a
servant."
If you
don't mind always being a side chick, never a wife or having a real man of
substance. The title "Ride or Die"
could be a badge of honor for you and even of honorable mention among
savages. Even a “Ride or Die” man wants
a woman who has her own mind and limitations.
But the choice is yours ladies though what is most desired is obvious.-XOXO
Nikki
1 comments:
Well put, especially the COO reference. Overall, safety and security appear to be what men are seeking from their women and sometimes men tend to perceive their safety or security i.e. "Ride or Die" needs being met by their women when it is in overt/loud expressions. In turn, this perception minimizes the more subtle ways a women is helping to provide/enhance safety and security for men while also placing unsafe demands on a women to prove her loyalty. So much of this is perception and conditioning but doesn't really get at the root desire to simply feel safe in many cases. Sometimes men may use a masculine term such as "Ride or Die" to express the need to feel safe and secure. Oddly enough when they are using this "Ride or Die" term they are again trying to feel safe and secure by using a masculine term which doesn't make them appear vulnerable about their real desire to have their womens suppport. They may not mean they want their women to actually put themselves in a harmful situation to prove their loyalty/support. But they want to know if she is loyal to them so they use what many males use to measure loyalty amongst one another -standing up and taking risk for the good of the relationship i.e. "Ride or Die'. Early on males learn this as boys through sports. Males measure how safe they can feel with one another through risky acts with other males i.e. "our boys". So we take this same measuring tool and try to apply it to a romantic relationsip with a female i.e. "our girl". In the end, once again we end up with fear trumping the desire for love and affection when we make this choice.
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