Hi Dolls,
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Let’s talk about
something that is universal, something that women of all walks of life can
relate to. Many women use sex as a means to establish a deeper more closer
relationship with a man. Most times this
leaves women in a compromising position, which leads many to make some bad
decisions. For men sex is very physical
more often than not. Their intentions remain physical while women seem to want
a closer bond after sex or with the intentions of such which in turn represents
a conflict of interest.
Consider what
some men have to say about this subject.
Ramone said, women try to use sex as a means to "get you,” some
feel as if they can hook you with sex and that once they do you will seek a
relationship with them. He continued,
"I met a woman at a club. She told
me that she wasn't looking for a relationship.
That was cool with me cause neither was I. She had a person that she was having sex with
of whom she spoke of and I didn't hold back from telling her about females with
whom I dated. We established a sexual
relationship. One night while having sex
with her I noticed that she was crying. I asked was wrong? She told me that she was doing something that
she hadn't planned on doing. I asked
then, what was that? What she told me changed everything. She told me she was falling in love. I was stunned because I hadn't done anything
but have sex with her. She couldn't have
loved nothing but how I was making her feel.”
Craig stated,
"I was having sex with one lady just sex.
Upon the third time she came over she brought several changes of clothes
to my house like she was moving in. I
told her she was doing too much.” Sam
relayed how he started a physical relationship with a woman and she began
driving past his house at night to see if other woman was parked on the street
at my house. If she saw a car she would
honk her horn until she was noticed.
Lastly Dave stated a woman initiated sex with him knowing that he was in
a committed relationship. After sex when
she saw that I wasn't going to leave my woman for her she became irate".
Ladies has this
ever been you? No of course not who
would admit that. Why after sex do women become so clingy? Why is there such a difference in the way
that woman approach sex than men? The
reason has to do with a hormone that men and women produce after orgasm. It's called Oxytocin. After sex, women can continue to produce this
hormone for up to 3 days. While it is
productive in men only up to 3 hours.
What you may ask does this hormone do?
Well ladies, once
you have had your boat rocked really good, a hormone passes through your
bloodstream that tells us to bond with this man. It's a natural occurrence. Oxytocin is termed the bonding hormone for it
is the same chemical produced in women while breast feeding.
When asked the
majority of men agree that their reason for initiating sex is mostly
physical. Though I have heard other reasons
I'll reserve those for another topic of discussion. Only one man out of ten said that he would
use sex as a way to express depth of emotion in his relationship with his lady. Too bad for us he is taken! But women are biologically and chemically
made to, at the least desire a more intimate bond once sex comes into play.
So in conclusion
ladies, be mindful that the strange feeling you get of yearning to be with that
certain someone that you have become intimately close to or even desire to be
with is not necessarily love. This
feeling is chemically induced it can even be stimulated by cuddling. The breakdown of understanding comes when a
woman assumes that she can get a man where she wants’ him by using sex.
However, women
will be more successful at building a relationship through honest, respectful
communication. Then you will get what
you want and Oxytocin will be a bonding benefit of that understanding and not
the beginning of a relationship without understanding. Later dolls 'til next time be safe.
XOXO
NiKKi
